Suicide: Awareness My Mom & Bourdain

Hello everyone,
My writings, blogs, travel post, ranch happenings, and delicious food posts don’t include negativity or negative connotations. I’m always upbeat and I tell jokes. I live, laugh, love, eat, drink, and travel to the best of life. However, I felt it necessary to write about a dark topic; suicide, death, my mother, and Anthony Bourdain.

This subject is close to my heart. The day I saw the news about Anthony Bourdain taking his own life, it had me thinking deeply.

Anthony Bourdain Chef, Story Teller, Traveler, TV Host
When I read Bourdain took his own life I hopefully believed it was “fake news” or a prank. I spent an hour researching the event and came to the realization that is was true… and I just couldn’t believe it.
I have never met him, and I do not know him on a personal level. I watched his shows and loved the level of honesty about travels, cooking, people, kitchens, and political views. Throughout my research about Bourdain’s life, I found that he has stated his suicidal thoughts before, and has wrestled with demons his entire life. I felt an empty space in my heart for the way he must have felt for years.
There are a lot of parallels between Bourdain and my wonderful mom, Carol.
My mother Carol Cartwright Chapman was lively and an honest woman with a compassionate heart the size of Texas.  She was so lovely that people would stop just to stare at her beauty and talk to the incredible woman with the big smile. I know folks say this all the time but it was true EVERYONE LOVED her, and if you didn’t, it’s because you never had a chance to talk with her.
Carol loved to help people, in fact,  I think she wore a permanent candy striper uniform because she volunteered at the children’s hospital so often. Traveling made her so happy. She adored to tell stories, have great grand meals,  loved cocktails, and enjoyed parties.
Carol Chapman: Mom, Volunteer, Travler, Socializer, Lover

I believe it is important to be transparent about these issues because someone else out there might be able to relate.

Just like Bourdain, she had demons that ate her up daily. I’m not exactly sure why, but I think she drank and did drugs for the same reasons Bourdain did the same things. He has been honest about these issues in interviews. My mother Carol would regularly say to me, “Trey, if something happens to me don’t spend all the money and take care of yourself!” I would always say, “Mom WTF are you talking about? You’re incredibly beautiful, everyone loves you, and you live a charmed life. Nothing will happen to you, ever!” She would smile and tell me, “You just never know Trey.”
Today, and every day, I say to myself, what the f@#k was I thinking? Why did I not see the signs? They were there all along every time she told me that. After her death, I found out she tried to commit suicide two times before and she wasn’t successful. She had been taken to the hospital and no one told me. You don’t think I didn’t feel like someone hit me in the head with a steel pipe?
At first, you go through the angry stage, the “Why?” stage, then the forgiving stage,  then back to the “Why” stage. You end up staying at this stage. It’s something that will eat at your daily thoughts because you want to know the answer to the questions; Why did she do it? Why didn’t she ask for help? The same thoughts came up when I heard that Bourdain had committed suicide.
The answer to that question is… they don’t even know what’s wrong. I’m pretty confident that no one really knows why they do it, and especially the ones committing suicide!
I am sure people never thought Anthony Bourdain would do this. He seemed happy,  he was successful, rich. He was traveling and eating around the world on an extremely successful television show and won some of the biggest awards and worldwide accolades.
I’m telling you RIGHT NOW none of that MATTERS. It doesn’t make a damn what you have, where you’re going, where you’ve been, how many homes you have, and or whatever materials you possess. All that matters is you’re fighting those demons like a mother f$#ker every day. I saw it with my mom after I had time to contemplate and back over the years.
The signs where there, but I just didn’t see at that point. I just couldn’t see it. I think my stupidity, self-confidence, and arrogance wouldn’t let me see it. Sometimes, I wish I had just paid attention a bit more.
My mom told me all the time, “Trey, be yourself if they don’t like you… Too bad. Live life for you every day because you never know when you’re going to die.”
This is why I laugh a lot, tell jokes, I’m loud a lot, say what I want, do what I want and try to live every day like it’s my last f%@king day on earth.
My heart bleeds for my mother Carol, Anthony Bourdain, Kate Spade, Marty Richter, David Bentley, Trey Watt, Colton McBride, and all the many others who fight this battle and wrestle with those demons.

Love each one of you, and I hope all your dreams come true. Live a healthy, and happy life. Stay true to yourself and do you boo! Self-happiness is the key to a long life. Don’t let the haters, trash talkers, wanna be, and jealous folks rule your thoughts. Kick them to the curb and do you boo.

My Mom Carol and I dining In Dallas. One of my last photos I have of her in her older years!
Whatever you’re going through, there is help.
Suicide prevention hotline number is 1-800-273-8255
Are you in crisis?
Text CONNECT to 741741 from anywhere in the USA, anytime, about any type of crisis.
Learn about suicide prevention through Suicide Awareness Voices of Education (SAVE), a nonprofit resource for those affected by suicide.
Love Y’all and thanks for your time!
Trey Chapman

Taste Addison 2018 Food & Fun

Good Day,

Taste Addison returns with a weekend full of great food, live music and tons of family fun. It was a three-day menu of fun, May 18 – 20, the festival pairs bites from dozens of the town’s favorite eateries with great music at Addison Circle Park. The entertainment was amazing. On Friday, May 18, Whiskey Myers followed by North Texas’ very own Casey Donahew. Headlining the festival on Saturday night, May 19, was the Academy of Country Music award-winning group, Eli Young Band with opening Cory Morrow. On Sunday, May 20, we took a trip down memory lane with classic hits from great tribute bands. The food was delicious and creative Trey’s Chow Down and Drink With Trey had a fantastic time.

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BEST OF THE FEST @ Mayfest 2018

Good Day Friends,

Mayfest-Fort Worth  is a four-day festival on 33 acres in Trinity Park in Fort Worth, Texas. It was May 3-6, with music, carnival rides, games, festival food, special attraction shows, art market, dance performances, and “BEST OF THE FEST” food contest where we judged all the creative fair food. I’m always impressed with the creativity of the food dishes. This year marks the 46th anniversary of Mayfest, and Trey Chapman with Trey’s Chow Down was excited to be a judge again for the 2018 year.

Please enjoy our photo galley and reshare on social media for all to enjoy!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lip Smacking Unique and Creative BBQ Dishes!

Trey’s Chow Down T.V. BBQ On Good Day Fox 4

Good day to all the BBQ lovers,

When I was a boy, I remember riding in the backseat and driving by Angelo’s BBQ in Fort Worth, Texas. You could smell BBQ two blocks up the road before even getting there. That was over forty-five years ago, back when the DFW area had only a few barbeque joints. The usual order was limited to ribs, brisket, or chopped beef. There wasn’t nearly as much selection of BBQ as we have today.

Boy… have times changed. Change is good, and delicious. The BBQ market has gone crazy with all kinds of creative dishes and innovative ideas. We have old ol’ fashion BBQ, craft BBQ and some BBQ that I’m not even sure how to classify it. Pitmasters and chefs will stop at nothing to create mouth-watering deliciousness to send our foodie senses into overdrive. Everyone is competing for the next incredible dish and smoking up Texas with the best BBQ chow downs.

The competitiveness for the best barbeque has resulted in techniques that perfectly yield insanely good flavors on the finest meats. Foodies around the world have fallen in LOVE with Texas BBQ time after time. Chefs are replicating and doing it up Texas style. The bigger the better, just like everything in Texas. The best restaurants have chef driven menus, farm fresh house prepared sauces, and create bold BBQ flavors. Trust me, I’ll show you the best of the best places to chow down on barbecue.

“Johns Turkey Sandwich” BBQ On The Brazos.

Texas “barbeque, bar-b-que” is defined as a dressed steer, lamb, pig, goat or other animal, roasted or fired over an open hearth or pit. It’s usually a meal, in the open air and often as a family, political, or social gathering. It has become so much more than this definition. Texas BBQ in today’s world is a part of every foodies dream. We can get BBQ in all kinds of creative dishes with various types of toppings, sauces, vegetables, breads, and so much more. I’ve eaten a bunch of BBQ all over the state and these are some of my favorite unusual unique and creative BBQ dishes.

Please visit our Texas BBQ & Sides page for more BBQ locations and ideas in DFW and Texas.

BBQ on the Brazos
Cresson, Texas

Talk about deliciousness! It’s hard to describe the incredible flavors you get from John and Kathryn Sanford at their little BBQ shack in Cresson, Texas. Their BBQ tells a story, and we all know a good story makes food taste better. They’ve won awards, presented their foods on television, and are in the Texas Monthly “BBQ Top 50 Winners”. I admire their dedication to creating amazing flavor profiles. They truly aim to make the BEST of each item on the menu. I love every single dish they make. But what I really LOVE is “John’s Smoked Turkey Sandwich”. It’s smoked turkey on a jalapeño-cheese sourdough bun, with melted mozzarella cheese, French fried onion rings, and topped with chipotle mayo. I can promise you this sandwich is life changing. It is absolutely worth the drive. Make sure to take a camera to capture the “Wow! I’m in love” face you’ll make when you eat this.

Billy Oak Acres BBQ
Fort Worth, Texas

What can I say about big chef and pitmaster Billy Woodrich that hasn’t already been said at least 1000 times? This man and his team can make dreams come true with their BBQ, sides, and his signature “Billy Burger”. He has one of the BEST brisket dishes in Texas. I love his brisket, heck I even did a segment about it on Trey’s Chow Down T.V. episodes. Billy has been on multiple television shows, food shows, and in chef competitions. But what I want to discuss today is his “Billy’s Brisket Tacos”… O.M.G. you will visit the flavor gods at Billy’s and these tacos have it all. Also a forewarning… his old fashion hamburger is so good it will make you want to slap your mama.

“The Hot Mess” Pecan Lodge

Pecan Lodge
Dallas-Deep Ellum, Texas

Every single time I enter Deep Ellum, I roll my windows down because I know I’m fixing to smell greatness in the Dallas air. True story: One day, I was taking some friends out for a Sunday funday in Dallas. I got about four blocks away from Pecan Lodge and I rolled the windows down. The first person said, “Trey, what is that delicious smell?!, Goodness man”. The other one said, “What is that? OMG, it smells so good I want to take a bite out of your seat”. I laughed and said, “Welcome to Pecan Lodge folks. You’re BBQ dreams are about to come true.” Chef Justin and Diane say, “The secret to our success has been all smoke, no mirrors”. Everything they’re slinging out of their barbecue pits and kitchen is simply amazing. Everything is packed with insane flavor profiles. They’ve been on many television show segments and are also in the Texas Monthly “BBQ Top 50 Winners”. Now that you know the BBQ is incredibly delicious, I want to discuss two specific dishes I love. The “Hot Mess” and the “Pit Master Sandwich” both are just stupid delicious. Let me show you the menu description so you understand why; THE“HOT MESS” is a Jumbo sea salt-crusted sweet potato, South Texas barbacoa (shredded brisket with southwestern seasoning), chipotle cream, cheese, butter & green onions. THE “PITMASTER” has Brisket+Pulled pork+ Sausage, topped with slaw, bbq sauce & fresh sliced jalapeños. Make plans to visit the LODGE (but be prepared to wait in line, because it is that good).

Heim BBQ
Fort Worth, Texas

Heim BBQ has won many awards, been on TV, and you can find them at numerous BBQ events. Travis and Emma Heim started out cooking in a back yard. They expanded to selling meats out of parking lots and some of the best festivals in Texas. Then they moved to a food trailer, where their business began to gain a lot of traction. They moved forward and opened an incredible brick and mortar location on Magnolia Avenue in Fort Worth. Chef and pitmaster Travis and Emma will tell you their barbecue is a combination of great effort and perfected techniques. THIS is what creates an amazing flavor profile. They have some of the most heavenly BBQ in the world today. I love the smoked meats, sausage, and now on Sunday’s special “Travis’s Corn Dogs”. The creativity and dedication at Heim has no end. I have to tell you about the unbelievably flavorful burnt ends. The “Burnt Ends” are so good I can’t stop eating them. I swear, I would shove them in my mouth until I was so full that I can’t talk… then I will shove a few more in there like squirrel trying to hide his nuts. I’m telling you, visit Heim BBQ but make sure you’re on an empty stomach. Don’t you dare blame me when you eat half your weight in burnt ends.

Cattleack Barbecue
Dallas, Texas

“Pastrami Burnt Ends” Cattlelak BBQ

I stumbled on to Cattleack BBQ about two years ago. They have fantastic BBQ, great staff and a dedication to creating the best in the BBQ world for all to enjoy. Todd and Misty David work hard at creating masterfully delicious flavorful dishes. This is why they’re #3 on the Texas Monthly “Top 50 BBQ Joints” in Texas and #1 in Dallas for delicious BBQ. I admire their back story and how pit master David wants his place to feel like a back yard BBQ. I will show you an excerpt from their website. Please, check it out!

“In 2010, after selling the disaster restoration company he’d owned for 30 years, Todd David decided to turn his life-long BBQ hobby into a profession and founded Cattleack Barbeque, a North Dallas BBQ catering company. Just like Cadillac®‚ is known for its high-quality automobiles, Cattleack Barbeque is known for its top-notch, fall-off-the-bone, melt-in-your-mouth smoked meats. That’s why we’re “Branded the Best.” Owner and head pitmaster Todd David doesn’t take that tagline lightly. He pours his heart, soul and Special Reserve BBQ sauce into making sure that every single item on the menu leaves you thinking, “Wow. This is the best darn BBQ I’ve ever had.”” (read more here: http://www.cattleackbbq.com/about/)

Let me tell y’all, they have something incredible, and very unique when their on the menu, “ Akaushi Pastrami Burnt Ends”. OMG these little bite size things will send your mouth to the flavor carnival. They are for sure amazing; I went back three times to get more. Even then I couldn’t get enough. I wanted to steal the whole pan of these delicious bites like a thief in the night!

Jambo’s BBQ Shack
Arlington, Texas    (cover photo from Jambo’s BBQ)

Let me tell you about Jambo’s and chef Ashton Stauffer… Man, does she have some pride in her work and what they sling out of Jambo’s kitchen. Ashton Stauffer is the sole owner of all three Jambo’s BBQ Shack locations. She was born in Arlington, Texas and has dedicated much of her time and effort advocating for small business. She has two BBQ dishes I absolutely adore. The “Jambo Texan” and “The Sadie”. These two creative dishes are eye popping and packed with flavors. Directly from Jambo’s BBQ Shack menu, the “Jambo Texan” has two pork ribs, sliced sausage, pulled pork, chopped and slice brisket, and a slice of bologna piled between two pieces of Texas toast and held together with a skewer. “Not for the faint of heart. No pun intended”. “The Sadie” It is a large baked potato stuffed with butter and sour cream, shredded cheese, chopped brisket, minced sausage and chopped onions topped with beans. “This ain’t your granny’s baked potato!”

Hope you enjoy Trey’s Chow Down BBQ picks. Please try them all, and let me know by posting on our social media. Happy chow down to all!

Trey (Chow Down) Chapman